Last night, during my critique group meeting, G mentioned that she's terrified of public speaking.
"What's the fear behind that?" I asked.
"That people will think I'm stupid," she replied.
"But you're very smart. You know that," S said.
"I think it has to do with your role in your family growing up. When I was a kid, my brother was the smart one. He and my parents would have these intense conversations over dinner in which they'd discuss world issues or classic literature and I'd sit there like 'duh'." G stuck her tongue out of the side of her mouth.
"So because you didn't feel smart then, you question your intelligence now?" I asked.
"Exactly," she said.
What childhood feelings do you still carry as an adult?
1,000 days ago we started the longest running game of Questions. Since that first post on November 6, 2008, my life has changed. A lot. Here are some lessons I’ve learned over the span of the game:
• Sometimes you have to go through the same experience more than once to actually learn the lesson • Laughter heals • The best kind of friend is so comforting that you don’t even have to worry about them when they’re there • If your money doesn’t serve a higher purpose, you will lose it • Some people will never hear your “no” • Having that place to go is essential. So essential that when it’s gone, everyone around you can become lost • The kindness and generosity of one friend can save your life • Children are life-changing. Even when they’re not yours • The ultimate goal is to love and be loved • Walking provides a channel • Late night dance parties can lift your mood for days • Sometimes you have to smash wide open to put yourself back together • Ego is hard to fight • No one should ever go over 600 days without Sunday Night Dinners • Prayer is the most powerful form of communication • Everyone has an arrogance of something • “Good enough” is never good enough • People want to help • Ask for what you want. You deserve it. You really do
What lessons have you learned over the last 1,000 days?
xoxo, Suzanne PS - Thank you for playing Questions!
On the way home from work today, I caught a re-run of American Top 40. This week in 1979 was airing and Casey Kasem's voice brought me back to being a kid and listening to the show as we drove to my grandparents' house.
On those Sunday drives, we either listened to the American Top 40 Countdown or ABBA Gold.
Let me tell you, my mom, stepfather, sister and I do a mean four part harmony on "Take a Chance on Me."
What were family car rides like when you were a kid?
Yesterday, while driving back from a meeting, I caught a radio show about Numerology. I have visited a psychic (or 10) in my time. I remember a period when I checked my horoscope everyday. But I've never looked into numerology.
Apparently, in order to determine your Life Path number, you add up your date of birth until you get to one digit. For example, here's mine:
0 + 4 + 3 + 0 + 1 + 9 + 7 + 2 = 26
2 + 6 = 8
Last night, I discovered I have an 8 Life Path number. I looked it up and found that the description is pretty darn fitting.
I have a super huge deadine to meet. This morning, I got up before the sun did and got to work. I'm still in my PJ's, stomach rumbling and slightly dizzy. But I'm pretty sure after one more quick read-through I can send in the materials.
The following questions are brought to you from Wednesday night's live game of Questions:
1. Would you rather be Mick Jagger or Johnny Depp? 2. Is the glass half empty or half full? 3. How many licks does it take to get to the center of a Tootsie Pop? 4. Would you rather have fortune or fame? 5. If you had The Dolorian, where would you go?
This weekend, a portion of the 405 freeway is going to shut down for 53 hours. This may sound uneventful to a non-Angelino, but if you live in Los Angeles, the idea of closing a major artery in the already clogged heart of the city is akin to a complete shut down of the entire system.
On any given day, 500,000 vehicles pass through that section of freeway. So those 500,000 drivers will be displaced, traveling alternate roads and tilting an already fragile infrastructure into the crazy zone.
So, Los Angeles, the city of hypernews and gossip, did what it does best and created a genius marketing plan around the event. City officials have urged drivers to stay off the road. They asked people to stay in their neighborhoods for the weekend. People are planning block parties. Bars are scheduling pub crawls and offering $5 Car Bombs and Cadillac Margaritas. Celebrities are tweeting, "Stay off the roads!"
It just may turn out that all that manufactured fear will create less LA traffic than we'd experience any given weekend.
One of the benefits of living with a guy is enjoying his subscription to Men's Health. (When they write about women's wants and needs and how we think, they're actually right on. So much so that I wonder if any men actually read Men's Health. But that's a whole other post.)
According to Men's Health, in a 2009 study from Germany, researchers asked people how they felt about their age. Those who were happy with their age lived an average of two years longer than people were bothered by it.
Apparently, acceptance of aging, rather than denial of it, is related to healthy behaviors.
I feel, smarter, better and healthier every year. How do you feel about your age?
Today has been cRaZy. It's after 5:00PM and I am only now writing a question. I really don't know what happened. I worked, cleaned the house in preparation for a visit from a Jersey Girl and then I went food shopping so she doesn't starve.
So maybe it's not so much what I accomplished but what I didn't accomplish. For example, I forgot to write a question. I also forgot to invoice a client and I forgot to pay an important invoice.
Then I just realized the craziest thing. I forgot to eat. I never forget to eat!
Clearly, I'm having a scatterbrained day. What kind of day are you having?
Today, I will celebrate my freedom by brainstorming with a couple friends. Because in this country, women can write, create and be anything we want to.
Then I will get a pedicure, because in the U.S.A., women are free to wear shorts and sandals. We don't have the burden of covering our bodies head to toe.
Finally, I will celebrate my freedom by attending my friend J's pool party. There we will eat plenty of food, enjoy a few cocktails and swim. Because as Americans, we are lucky enough to prosper and celebrate.
How will you celebrate your freedom this holiday weekend?