"My mother's crazy," M said.
"Isn't everyone's mother crazy?" D asked.
I looked at the friends surrounding me, and from what I'd heard, they did indeed have crazy mothers.
"My mother's not crazy," I said. "I mean she's fun, like wild and crazy, but she's not remotely nuts."
"Really?" D asked. "If my mother were here, none of you could get a word in. She'd be talking the whole time."
I thought about the rest of my friends. Like the girls I grew up with. Most of them have very sane, normal mothers. Maybe crazy mothers were a west coast thing?
"Do you guys really feel like most people have crazy mothers?" I asked.
"Yes," they replied in unison.
"This could be a good question." I began to search through my purse. "Does anybody have a pen?"
Now I gotta ask. How crazy is your mother?
xoxo,
Suzanne
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My mother was strong and independent. She loved a good laugh, was wise and witty, fearless and loyal. Definitely not crazy.
ReplyDeleteOMG we talk about this every single day. My mom is crazy. Totally crazy. My guy friends joke that if I ever become a mother then I will turn crazy too. Of the people I know I'd say it's an 80/20 split between crazy and non-crazy mothers. E is not crazy; she rules. ;-)
ReplyDeleteMy mother is crazy on so many levels I don't know where to begin. Every one of my friends to ever meet her has agreed. Some have suggested I write a book about her but, being as she's still alive, that seems like a bad idea to me (she's got better lawyers than me). Plus, I didn't really like "Running With Scissors" and I know that's the sort of sad story it'd turn into.
ReplyDeleteMy mother has physically tortured me because she thought I was trying to skip school. She once tried to con me out of $80,000. To this day she refused to acknowledge that my step dad beat me even though she was there a few of the times. That being said, I have no doubt that this all makes sense to her as the right thing to do because she loves me to death. She has a clear conscience about everything she's done in life. To me, that's what makes her crazy. Granted, that's also what makes it all forgivable.
Thanks for the therapy, S. Check's in the mail.
insane, she should be committed..so its def not a west coast thing
ReplyDeleteCrazy is the only way I can ever justify her behavior toward me and others. It will be a lifelong struggle for me to understand the behavior, to ever feel truly loved by the one who gave me life, and to find inner peace with it.
ReplyDeleteHa! My mom is a little. She told me I was a monkey growing up and that she was Wonder Woman. But she is also one of my best friends now and goes with me to concerts still! She is actually pretty grounded and level headed most of the time!
ReplyDeleteMy mother was kind and loving and supportive. She wasn't a crazy mom (and I knew some scary examples of nuts). Even though she believed in the traditional man-woman division of labor, etc, she was decidedly forward-thinking for her time. She also gave me the gift of unconditional love. - - - And just to comment on Thomas' comment, I've always found the phrase "loves to death" a little freaky.
ReplyDeleteShe used to be really crazy. Like, she helped me win front row backstage passes to Poison when I was a kid - we had to dress up like the band. But since she married "that guy" many parts of her have changed and not just the cool craziness.
ReplyDeleteUm, this is one question I'm not touching!
ReplyDeleteI wouldn't say crazy, just the most high-anxiety person I know. If she doesn't have something to obsess about, she creates something to obsess about.
ReplyDeleteMy mom isn't crazy. I certainly do not understand the decisions she has made, many that have been extremely hurtful, but I know she loves me.
ReplyDeleteNow, my father? Nuts X a million.
Oh yeah, crazy. Which has made her stroke much harder to deal with, because by the time she had it I felt like I'd already been taking care of her for ten years with her emotional neediness. While the stroke added another level to it - she's doing pretty well, I should say - she had tapped my resources for much of my adult life and I resent it. I wish I had longer with my "real" mom, the one who would come visit my house and plant flowers in my front garden. Her evolving neediness did have one positive factor. When the doctor talked about it being difficult for children to see parents needing so much help, I chuckled inside as that particular transition was not an issue. (Thanks for the venting outlet.)
ReplyDeleteOn a scale of 1-5, I think she's a solid 3. Not crazy in the fun way, though.
ReplyDeleteNot at all crazy in either a wild or therapy inducing way...she's fun, supportive and so loving. Now, I'm curious what my daughter will say about me in about 20 years... I'm hoping she see's the good kind of crazy.
ReplyDeleteMy mother is one of the best women I know. I don't think she's nuts at all. She's been loving, supportive, respectful, and down-right hardworking for her family as long as I've known her. She's smart and thoughtful and makes you feel cared for in the littlest ways. Yeah, she's crazy good.
ReplyDeleteMIL is crazy. My mom used to be okay before her strokes. She had a wickedly sarcastic sense of humor.
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