Yesterday, I ended up sunsetting at a beachside bar with a bunch of friends. When one of the guys, N, got up to use the bathroom, a girl sat in his seat. He came back and said, "Pardon me, this is my seat."
She rolled her eyes at him and snapped, "Really?"
He attempted to smile said, "Well, yes, really, it's my seat."
In an effort to be helpful, JL, next to him, leaned over to the girl and said, "You know, some tables just opened up outside if you'd like to sit."
She shot up, wacked her purse against the table, yanked her hoodie off N's chair, huffed a "Whatever!" and stood four feet away from us, kind of hovering, for the next hour or so.
So when N and JL stepped out again, she sat in his chair again. Then she actually slid JL's chair around the table's end and put it opposite her so her friend could face her. The other four of us at the six top stared at each other.
I leaned into her, gave my most gracious smile and said, "Seriously. They just stepped out. They'll be back in two minutes."
She rolled her eyes at me.
I turned to my friends and said, "Am I gonna have to get all Jersey on this chick?"
C's eyes bulged. M's shoulders haunched and JC giggled, anticipating the upcoming drama.
The guys returned, stopped and stared.
N walked up to the girl and said, "Hi. Can I have my seat back?"
She rolled her eyes again. (Which I must say is the biggest third grade move I've seen since third grade.) Then she blurted, "No!"
In an attempt to be patient, he said, "This is ridiculous. This is my seat."
She started yelling and finally he told her to get out of the chair in a less polite manner. And finally, she did and went straight downstairs to complain to a manager.
We were dumbfounded. I'd never seen anything like it. And she didn't seem drunk, she just seemed mean.
And maybe I'm naive or maybe just a hermit, but I rarely encounter mean people. My friends and I talked about this and stunningly, to me anyway, N thinks the population is 70% mean, 30% nice. JC thought it was more like the opposite, 70% nice, 30% mean. I told them I felt like people are 95% nice and 5% mean.
They looked at me like I'm a moron.
So I want to know, how often do you encounter the mean? What kind of mean to nice ratio does your world offer up?
3 years ago