H took me to sushi last night. (God bless H.) As we ate salmon sashimi and a fiery roll of some sort, we discussed the whole "grass is always greener" theory.
We talked about how married people will ask us, "Did you go out last night?" All curious. Maybe a wee bit jealous. But what about them? Aren't we a little jealous of them? After all, we agreed that it would be nice to eat dinner with someone other than each other once in a while.
So is it only natural to want what we don't have? And does that mean we want it any less?
xoxo,
Suzanne
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I don't think I want what I don't have. I didn't get married until I was 30 and I didn't have kids until 33. I had my fun then settled down. I do wish sometimes that I were on a little longer leash but I feel confident that it will lengthen as my kids get older. I don't even wish I had more material things, bigger better house, nicer car, etc. I'm pretty content with what I have.
ReplyDeleteI think there is a lot of green grass around and what color green you like is not the shade that someone else would like. It also depends upon the lighting available, like whatis going on in your life at that very moment.
ReplyDeleteI'm with Sudabaki - I don't think I want what I don't have either. (Sure, bigger closets and an actual savings account with more than $20 in it would be nice.) I had my daughter at 38 and before that I lived a full, crazy life filled with wonderful experiences and so much love. Today, I still live a full, crazy life filled with wonderful experiences and so much love. It's different than before but I wouldn't trade with anyone.
ReplyDeleteIt's natural. I certainly want sushi right now and don't have it. I want a lot of things that seem "greener" than I think they actually are, and because I just can't have them. But on the whole, I'm happy with the way things are. Sushi or not. :D
ReplyDeleteNow that Lady Glamis mentioned sushi, yes I do what want I don't have. To be well off enough to eat sushi more often!
ReplyDeleteIt's the perpetual What If. Those of us who got married at 21 can be fairly judged as susceptible to this tendency. Doesn't make it right, but, you know...
ReplyDeleteI think that it depends on someone's point of view, married or not. There are people who always want to have more wherever they go, while others are pretty much satisfied with what's growing on their own lawn. It's natural to want something more green for refreshment from time to time. But too much of it might result in over saturation, and that wouldn't be such a nice view. Have a great weekend, everybody :)
ReplyDeleteMy grass rocks! Okay, that sounds a bit suspect. Anyway, I love where I am and, for the 1st time in my life, I'm grounded and content. It feels great! I still love to hear about other people's grass. It's fun to dream about living a moment or two in someone else's shoes. ; )
ReplyDeleteIt took me a long time in adulthood to realize that the grass really ISN'T greener on the other side, just different.
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